Service of the Legacy of Passionate Hobbies

May 23rd, 2019

Categories: Flowers, Games, Gardening, Hobby, Plants



My family was besotted by The New York Times Sunday crossword puzzle and bridge. I was interested in neither and that’s never changed. I’d cringe when someone would ask: “What’s a five letter word for X?”

However, I have always had plants, like my dad. In fact, I have a third cousin of a dracaena that he nurtured since the 1960s and an asparagus fern that was his. [He died in 1985.] The fern thrived in the country. I had to split it in two for the move and I’m resuscitating it in its new home. I also play a lot of solitaire on my computer either during long conference calls or as a quick break. My dad played with cards almost every night.

When I recently asked a friend, who lives in a house in the suburbs, what flowers she’d planted in her garden this spring she said “none.” Her mother was a zealous gardener. She thought her lack of interest in flowers may have been related. She works on the Times‘ Sunday puzzle, she said, something her father also finished weekly.

I mentioned all this to another friend who shared a different twist. Her mother was an expert knitter who made countless magnificent, complicated Irish knit baby sweaters. After her husband–my friend’s father–died she stopped cold. Eventually my friend asked her why she didn’t knit anymore and her mother replied, “I don’t know how.”

Are hobby choices as much psychological as they are related to a person’s druthers and abilities? Do you share hobbies with a parent? Have you turned away from or added a hobby?


2 Responses to “Service of the Legacy of Passionate Hobbies”

  1. BC Said:

    Think hobbies can change over time as we go through
    different chapters in our lives. For me, childhood-singing
    in church choir from age three, biking, bowling with Dad, piano, then high school- singing, playing soft ball, field hockey, basketball, playing the saxophone in the school band and parts in plays/musicals. College-less time for hobbies but managed singing in the choir, field hockey, bird watching,
    and writing poetry. Medical school did not afford much free time for hobbies, but I maintained church choir, horse back riding in Central Park, and musicals on Broadway.

    Then marriage , motherhood , and work took up time, and
    activities centered around our son, but I was able to continue
    as soprano soloist in a local church., and write poetry.

    Senior years, lost my voice from overuse, and joined the
    bell choir at church.Writing poetry continued, and we took up
    croquet. Tried golf for awhile, but that faded after a few years.
    Have become active in our theater group as producer and back stage work.

    Now the 80’s have just brought bilateral deafness, so hearing aides will be my new adventure. Over time, friends come and go, which makes life interesting as one enters new chapters of life.

  2. EAM Said:

    I came across this segment on Today. It says that if you’re focusing on your project, then you aren’t focusing on whatever else is preoccupying your thoughts.

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