Service of When What Calms You is Out of Reach

March 23rd, 2020

Categories: Church, Museums, Music, Religion, Restaurant, Retail, Solace, Sports

Open for contemplation.

Congregants at synagogues, mosques, temples and churches, passionate sports fans and shoppers, movie and concert goers, bar hoppers, exercisers, museum and restaurant enthusiasts and travelers are up a creek these days. There are no religious services or sports competitions, and favorite roosts  that calm, uplift, cheer and/or distract are closed: movie houses, gyms, museums, concert halls, stores, bars and restaurants.


Even hugs are out.

I was looking at a favorite cooking show on TV yesterday but can’t find the ingredients so is there any point?

What do you substitute and how do you maintain your equilibrium when your favorite distractions and sources of solace are on hiatus? What do you look forward to? What’s an anxious person to do?


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12 Responses to “Service of When What Calms You is Out of Reach”

  1. EAM Said:

    I do some stretches in the morning and listen to my app Calm. I also listen to music and go for a walk everyday to save my sanity. This past Saturday, I joined my Weight Watchers meeting virtually so we could all still stay connected.

  2. Jeanne Byington Said:


    Super ideas.

    I didn’t go out at all over the sunny weekend so Governor Cuomo wasn’t yelling at me for jamming streets, farmers markets and parks. I took advantage of the rainy, chilly weather this morning figuring nobody would be out and I was right. It felt so good to walk and walk if just for half an hour. I didn’t want to be a street hog.

  3. ASK Said:

    Valium, Xanax, Klonopin…? Seriously, I have been cooking up a storm, cleaning out the room corners that the cleaning lady misses (no visitors in our building allowed unless health- or child-care workers), taking out a needlepoint project I started 2 years ago, walking up and down the evacuation stairs to keep from piling on the pounds, and worrying about an economic crash the likes of which we have never seen…And now that the Met Gala has been cancelled or postponed (I forget which) there will be no comic relief…If they do reschedule, perhaps the attendees can come dressed as Potentially Lethal Viruses…

  4. Martha Takayama Said:

    It is difficult to find answers to the dilemma of being unexpectedly deprived of all routine choices. One possible and partial respect is to address issues or tasks that are less diversionary and usually end up being put off. I am trying to clean up parts and eliminate a la Marie Kongo (Although I only vaguely am aware of her guidelines) the unnecessary things in my environment.

    A friend sent me an email noting the gift of time all the current restrictions grant us. Therefore I am trying to contact people I have meant to and seemed not to have time for and to update or renew old friendsships.

    Trying to find humor in conversation and reading or watching old movies provides some comfort.

    Lastly I am gingerly reading and thinking about trying exercise routines that are recommended on the net and TV. The struggle to combat anxiety and avoid despair at what seems like an apocalyptic event is constant. Most importantly is to continue to try.

  5. Francine Ryan Said:

    Francine on Facebook: I am baking and cooking and calling friends I haven’t spoken to in months and face timing with my children and grandchildren. And reading books on my iPad from the Nassau Digital Library. As soon as it stops raining, I will go and work in the garden. Also organizing a great throw out of old files, etc. !

  6. Jeanne Byington Said:


    Cooking sounds like a good pastime if you have the necessary ingredients. The store nearest me is a ripoff. I succumbed to buying one apple as I had such a yen for one. It doesn’t look that good. They are charging $3.49/lb.

    I have plenty to do in the cleaning, tossing and organizing department. It will be a distraction and will make me happy when I’ve done something. I’m finding I get so distracted that the day ends and I haven’t done what’s on my list of “to dos.”

    Giggling at your Met Gala predictions! Humor helps.

  7. Jeanne Byington Said:


    I love the concept of a gift of time. I’m always in a rush. Trouble is that my racing around allows me to divert scary thoughts about what’s happening to my savings, for example. Too much time to think is not a good recipe for me.

  8. Jeanne Byington Said:


    As I wrote EAM, the rain was my friend today. I was able to walk freely this morning passing a remarkably few people. It helps that my neighborhood is filled with commercial buildings most of which are empty. My solution to the exercise issue–I find going for long walks soothing–for the time being is to get up early and take a brisk walk while streets are empty. I will also stay away from parks.

    I have a pile of books and reading material but haven’t cracked one open or gone through the piles. Bored I’m not. Distracted and unfocused I am, chatting and texting with friends. My time has been like closets: Large or small, a lot or a little, I fill it–so far.

  9. Lucrezia Said:

    When agitated, Bach, + a strong hot tea, go a long way towards restoring equilibrium. In today’s particular situation, I use the internet to reach desired sites; so as long as there’s power, all is relatively well.

    Much, if not all of life is about change, so if greatly discommoded, it pays to remember that most of the world’s population have much more to complain about. Let’s not whine, and instead follow the advice of a long departed friend: “Learn to roll with the punches!”

  10. Jeanne Byington Said:


    As for whines, I’ve not heard any from my circles though the concept triggered a memory. Our great aunt, in her early 90s who still lived alone in her apartment, saw a giant water bug walk out of her shower. [Some can be as big as a small mouse.] I asked her if she screamed. Her answer: “No. Who would have heard me?” Similarly, we could whine and who would [want to] hear? As you wrote in your comment, many have far more to complain about.

    As for the punches advice, “I’m rolling, I’m rolling the best I can.”

  11. Loretta Adams Said:

    Loretta on Facebook:

    Writing letters to the little ones in my family. I think it is fun to receive a letter in the mail, and I think their parents will incorporate it into their “home schooling.”

  12. Jeanne Byington Said:


    Fabulous idea. A real letter! I hope you get drawings and/or notes in return.

    I’ve heard from people I rarely hear from some by email, others with a mailed card. People large and small appreciate any communication at this time of upheaval where many of our usual contacts are verboten.

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