Service of Online Dating During a Pandemic: Where There’s Hope

September 28th, 2020

Categories: Dating, Internet Dating, Pandemic, Relationships

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While most social occasions to meet a potential companion, such as weddings, special events and dinner parties or opportunities like travel and work have been scotched by the pandemic, internet dating is thriving according to Mary Meisenzahl of buinessinsider.com. She wrote: “Match Group’s second quarter 2020 earnings report shows an increase in subscribers and downloads over pre-COVID-19 levels, and users are back to paying for membership at the same level they were before.”

And who can blame people for valiantly continuing to search for the mate of their dreams to ward off loneliness, especially now?

Match Group encompasses 45 brands and represents 60 percent of the internet dating market–10 million subscribers of which Tinder claims 6 million reported Meisenzahl. Some other familiar ones are Match, Hinge, and OKCupid. Meisenzahl identified as “most promising” that the economic crisis has had no impact on average revenue per user which after April’s lull has steadily increased and “even surpassed pre-coronavirus levels.”

I’ve been to two weddings made possible by online dating and each has led to long and happy unions.

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There are the obvious concerns about people meeting during a pandemic when they are unfamiliar with the habits of strangers potentially catching or spreading Covid-19.  And how many of these relationships are destined for tragedy because they are based on settling, no more than a hasty antidote to extraordinary loneliness during a period of working at home? Once the pandemic passes, half of these couples might get hurt.

This gloom and doom perspective is more than conjecture.  History books are filled with tales of quick fix connections that were made during wartime that dissolved soon afterwards. I know of just such an instance that happened eons ago.

We were stationed for two years–the typical term–on a Turkish base. Some couples lived in base housing and airmen, most of whom were young bachelors, lived in barracks. If they were married, airmen lived in apartments off the base. A couple we knew broke up immediately on returning to the states. The husband told his devastated wife he’d only married her so that he didn’t have to live in airman quarters and admitted he didn’t want to be alone, so far from home, for 24 months.

Do you know folks who continue to date on the Internet through the pandemic? Have any met the ONE? Do you think desperation not to be lonely may impact the longevity of some of these relationships?

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7 Responses to “Service of Online Dating During a Pandemic: Where There’s Hope”

  1. MarthaTakayama Said:

    I don’t know anyone who in seeking for a partner or companionship on online dating. I do no know of several people, one in her early 40’s and the other in her early 70’s both of whom did use online dating and both of whom were prey to scams. The younger one actually got into a fairly complicated situation, but understanding law enforcement helped her resolve the matter without consequences other than hurt feelings. The older woman was slow to face her reality, but did not compromise herself. Covids does make all socialization harder, but we are living in an age with our daily lives ridden with scams. Consequently I think online matchmaking is best avoided.

  2. Jeanne Byington Said:

    Martha,

    You’ve reminded me of an attractive young woman I once knew who was paid to post and communicate with potential dates on an Internet site to ensure that a paying customer generated at least some responses. That was at least five years ago, though, and a strategy that might have been used to introduce a new dating website.

    Rumor had it when I was in [ballroom] dancing school in fifth grade that the girl’s parents paid and the boy’s parents didn’t because there were so few boy students. I would be curious if men still go free on dating websites as there seem to be more single women than men in the land.

    I empathize, however, with a person who normally welcomes interaction with others at the office, grabs a bite of lunch with a friend or enjoys retail therapy after work who now finds him/herself at home 24/7, hopefully with work to do, and consistently alone. There’s no dropping in at the local bar to chat with the bartender and hopefully to catch the eye of a likely someone.

  3. BC Said:

    Do not know anyone dating on the Internet. Sorry!

  4. Lucrezia Said:

    Like most adventures, online dating is a mixed bag, with results ranging from fairy tale endings to murder. One generally comments according to ones experiences. I once worked with two married characters who preyed on single women at bars and night clubs, pre-online era. Married people, criminals and other questionable folk prowl online, or anywhere potential victims may be found. Scary headline/lurid stories scream tragedy every so often.

    The equivalent to online dating has been going on for centuries, its possible precursor, arranged marriages, which may have evolved to what we see today. Red light signals abound, so if one stays awake and aware, cruising can be fun and perhaps profitable. Not everyone is crooked!

  5. Amanda Ripanykhazova Said:

    LOVE your reference to “Brief Encounter”! I’ll have to go and re-watch it.

    I can’t help but think that lots of the romance may have been filtered out if they had tried it online before either of them got to that railway station tea room?

  6. Jeanne Byington Said:

    Amanda,

    One of my favorite movies of all time. It was on Turner Classic [I think] the other night and I caught the end of it. Whew! And her patient, understanding husband. Oh my.

    There’s an analytical aspect to online dating that I base on conversations with friends who have done it or currently do. I fear that many will miss meeting Mr. or Mrs. Almost Perfect because one clicks “love opera” while the other prefers classical orchestra and jazz or one is a passionate sports follower who dislikes shopping and the other has no interest in sports and loves shopping. I have just described my husband and myself. Our online profiles would never have crossed! BTW, I learned to appreciate some operas and he increasingly liked classical orchestra and while he watched football or golf I went shopping. What’s more perfect than that!

  7. MarthaTakayama Said:

    I also saw “Brief Encounter” again on TCM lst week. It seems to me totally unlike online dating. It is terribly romantic, fraught with intensity, angst guilt, passion, noble sentiments and very sophisticated compassion and understanding blended with a dose of acceptance.

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