Service of Staying Alert: Watch Out for Area Code 844

August 27th, 2026

Categories: Phones, Scams

We are all at risk of falling for a scam.

Yesterday a friend opened his computer to flashing lights and warnings that terrible things would happen to his documents if he didn’t call the posted number right away–which he did. Long story short he’s OK after a visit to his bank that reassured him and noted he was far from the only one to fall for the swindle. They did not offer him a new credit card.

He had provided the last four digits of his credit card and his address. He was asked–by a man with an American name and pronounced Indian accent–to get gift cards at Lowes and Home Depot. His first mistake was to call the number that accompanied the flashing lights–and not AOL whom the caller claimed to represent–to confirm that there really was a problem.

I don’t answer unrecognized phone numbers and try to see who the caller was especially if there’s no message. Most of the time I don’t get anywhere but with this number–844-335-8230—Google found this from a potential target: “844-335-8230 called and said they are United Health Care and they wanted to talk to me concerning my prescriptions. I told them I didn’t need to talk to them because I can talk to my doctor about my prescriptions. At first I thought they were United Health Care and They asked for my date of birth and I gave it to them. Then I hung up on them.”

The number called me three days in a row. I never picked up.

This is what Google taught me about 844 numbers. They “are toll-free and legitimate, but repeated calls from them are often scams using caller ID spoofing or aggressive tactics to extract money or personal information.

“The 844 area code is a toll-free prefix in the North American Numbering Plan, similar to 800, 888, and 877. It is non-geographic, meaning the caller could be anywhere in the U.S. or Canada, and the prefix itself does not indicate legitimacy or a scam. Legitimate businesses, such as banks, insurance companies, and customer service centers, frequently use 844 numbers. However, scammers also exploit this prefix because it appears official and can bypass local suspicion.”

Watch out for 844 numbers that seem to come from a legitimate company or messages about legal action or account fraud. There may be repeated calls without messages [as I got] and the well-known request for personal information, even remote access to your devices.

“It’s always something,” a friend often says. Stuff seems to come at us faster and faster. Have you become aware of scams that are new to you or did any of your acquaintances fall for a swindle recently?

Service of Balance

August 24th, 2026

Categories: Balance, Government, Media

One of the goals of public relations is to get a fair shake—a balanced story with media—if controversy arises about their client. While this didn’t always happen in the past, you had a good shot as most reporters strove to produce balanced stories.

Hard to do these days as illustrated by the latest intrusion by the administration on the 165 year old Stars and Stripes. The Pentagon fired publisher Max Lederer, editor-in-chief Erik Slavin, and Middle East reporter Lara Korte. Lederer was scheduled to retire but they fired him anyway.

Associated Press reporter Jocelyn Noveck reasoned the firings of the EIC and reporter were for “insubordination after they spoke publicly against any interference by the Defense Department in the military news outlet that has a long history of editorial independence.” She continued “It was the latest move by an administration that has grown increasingly aggressive toward the news media.”

Noveck wrote “The moves come at a time when the Trump administration, in its second term, has been progressively combative toward the media — including sharply curtailing Pentagon access for the press corps that covers the Defense Department. Trump or other parts of the executive branch have also, in policy and in the courts, grappled with The Wall Street Journal, The Associated Press and The New York Times — in addition to using the FCC to target broadcast networks.”

She quoted Slavin as saying “he was being fired ‘for stating in a CBS interview that hypothetical censorship of news for service members would constitute a red line.” Korte participated in the same interview.’” And “I stand by the principle that Stars and Stripes must remain editorially independent, as required by law and by the department’s own policies.”

How many canaries in the coalmine do we need to experience before we put our collective feet down or am I overreacting? Will the media recover from these assaults?

Service of Matchmaking

August 20th, 2026

Categories: Matchmaking

I’ve attended weddings of two happily married couples who met through matchmaking apps and know of others who have met their companions. These apps seem to work.

Nevertheless, the recent New York Times article that caught my eye was reminiscent of college me in a way. The article is: “Forty First Dates and Still Searching–Joseph Pascaretta has spent roughly $65,000 on high-end matchmaking services. Will it help him find the love of his life?

In the day I had arbitrary wishes of the kind of person I wanted to go out with before I married such as “a military man in uniform,” and “a guy who owns a sports car.” There was nothing about kind or funny and smart. I don’t recall if I thought of requirements for husband candidacy. I didn’t think of marriage at that time. My wishes were easy to achieve. Not so Pascaretta’s requirements. He is 38.

Catherine Pearson’s is a long article with interesting reader comments. I’ve chosen only a few highlights.

According to Pearson, “Pascaretta also sent the [matchmaking] team an Excel spreadsheet cataloging his must-haves: an accomplished professional, ideally a doctor, lawyer or executive, ‘someone like me who has been ‘heads down’ career focus, but now is ready for a serious relationship.’ Someone who has never been married or is at least amicably divorced. Someone shorter than him. And someone between the ages of 25 and 43. It also detailed his strong preference for a woman who is, among other things, ‘naturally pretty’ and ‘stylish,’ ‘loyal, classy, ambitious, elegant, feminine, emotionally stable,’ from a ‘well-respected family’ and who went to a top-tier school.”

My reaction to his requirements is: Anything else?

Pearson wrote: “Pascaretta’s contract with Agape Match guarantees him at least one date per month from the company’s massive database of single women — most of whom have signed up for free, uploading a photo, filling out a questionnaire and then sitting for a 60-minute “discovery call” where the matchmakers quiz them about everything from their ideal date to their political views.”

Do you think paying large sums of money should increase the chances that you’ll discover the love of your life? What about setting requirements for your intended—should you ignore some on your list if the major ones are checked?

Service of Do Freshman College Students Need a Leg Up?

August 17th, 2026

Categories: Anxiety, College, Grades, Stress, Students

Stress ball

This fall, freshman at the University of Michigan College of Literature, Sciences, and the Arts won’t get grades the first semester. They will get P or NC for pass or no credit. Why? To improve student mental health.

According to CoPilot Search, “The policy is part of a broader trend in higher education to reduce academic pressure in response to rising mental health concerns among college students.”

The rationale ranged from giving freshman time to adapt to the demands of college; encourage them to take challenging courses without impact on GPA and replace a culture of student competition with collaboration.

UMich isn’t alone. MIT has used a pass/no-record system for first-year students since 1968 to allow students to take challenging courses without the pressure of grades affecting their academic records. Caltech has a similar policy. Wellesley College replaces letter grades with pass/no credit on transcripts for freshman as does Swarthmore College according to CoPilot Search.

Tests were never my friend and always a source of anxiety. I’m not alone. Is it harmful when freshman anxiety is not acknowledged? And whether or not in high school or college aren’t we always tested whether to get a driver’s license or cook a portion of fries; pack and arrive at the station to catch a train; submit taxes by April 15 or clean the house before company arrives?

It’s hard to get into many universities and the anxiety waiting to hear whether a student is accepted or how much scholarship money they will receive, making the tuition hurdle possible, is astronomical. What is it about this crop of students that makes administrators feel they need special consideration for the first semester of their freshman year when they’ve survived the application process? What do you think of the initiative?

Service of Are We Meaner or Have We Always Been?

August 13th, 2026

Categories: Demean, Humor, Manners, Rude Behavior

I popped into a CVS on a broiling afternoon to buy water as I’d stupidly left home without a bottle. I asked a clerk, who was dealing with boxes of merchandise, if he could open it for me as the top wouldn’t budge and I didn’t have a rubberband handy. As he gave it back I said, “So easy! Of course I loosened it up.” This robust young man responded: “I always say that.” We both laughed.

Sometimes bus drivers are patient and wait for a passenger, [plenty don’t]; the door staff at my apartment building are welcoming and helpful and as tiring as standing at a cash register all day must be, grocery store clerks at some stores are anxious to please and share a laugh.

So often I have pleasant exchanges and yet there’s the drumbeat that echoes an Oprah podcast headline: “We’ve Never Been Meaner. Here’s Why.”

I have only the promo to go by as I don’t subscribe to her podcast, but I get the gist and can’t disagree with how difficult it must be for frontline employees such as flight attendants, emergency medicine doctors, fast food workers, baristas and influencers.  One of each is interviewed in the podcast. They talk about the extreme levels of rudeness they experience at work and online, according to the promo.

Oprah and one of the experts, Dr. Jay Van Bavel, professor of psychology and neuroscience at NYU, and the director of the NYU Center for Conflict and Cooperation, delved into the subject. Dr. Van Bavel broke down what is causing this rise in incivility and shared some ideas about how we can all do better.

Copilot Search shared these highlights. Dr. Van Bavel says, “humans haven’t suddenly become worse — the social environment has changed in ways that make incivility more likely.” He pointed to stress and inequality, social media and leaders modeling contempt. According to Copilot Search, “In the Oprah Winfrey conversation, Dr. Van Bavel also noted the role of AI in harming relationships, reality TV normalizing bad behavior, and the normalization of rudeness in public spaces”

Do you think we’ve never been meaner, or have we always been grouchy and short-tempered? Was our bad behavior not captured and amplified as much in the past?

Service of What Architects Have Learned and Not

August 10th, 2026

Categories: Architects, Architecture, Elevators, Inconvenience, Restaurant, Sloppy

When it comes to ladies’ rooms, women are lucky today. Architects responsible for public spaces such as movie houses or theaters put in a generous lineup of stalls. In the old days before and after a show the line for the one or two was a sin. For a reminder of the old days, visit older Broadway theaters and concert halls.

In another example of smart change I saw construction workers painting the roof of an adjacent building bright white [Photo above]. In the day I lived in a wonderful apartment in Brooklyn Heights with working fireplace, skylight in one of two bathrooms, two bedrooms, a dining room and a view of the East River from the kitchen window. In summer the place was a caldron because it was on the top floor under a black tar roof. We offered to paint it and buy the pain, but the landlord refused to let us.

Nevertheless, these days, I sometimes wonder where the architect or product designer has been or the contractor or business owner overseeing a project.

In the lobby of a major NYC medical facility is an elevator call board that is confusing enough to require instruction arrows for up and down. [Photo right.]

The layout of the floor selection board in my apartment’s elevators confounds many of us. [Photo below.] It can take a nanosecond or two to find the floor of a package laden neighbor.

A neighborhood coffee shop that doesn’t want to pay to change the step in to a ramp. It tells wheelchair bound customers to ring a bell [that doesn’t work] or to inquire within for assistance. And how will this person manage that?

A block from me is an apartment building that spans from 39th to 40th streets on Second Avenue that for at least five years has paid for scaffolding. The architect in charge isn’t on top of the project. It’s great for pedestrians on snowy or rainy days but the cost must put a big dent in the building’s maintenance budget. I once lived in a poorly managed co-op, but we put a stop to the scaffolding snafu soon enough.

Have you noticed wonderful changes or glitch decisions by architects, business owners or product designers?

Service of Fun Words

August 6th, 2026

Categories: Vintage, Words

Classic 1950s cocktail shaker that in the day must have heard many choice fun words.

I had to look up hornswoggle when Senator Sheldon Whitehouse used it in a Facebook post. It means to get the better of someone by cheating.

The butler on “Downton Abbey,” Carson, called one of his employees a hobbledehoy–a clumsy, awkward, or gawky youth. PBS is replaying the series on NY and Long Island stations.

Some other words we don’t often use, yet I’ve heard, except the last one, include cattywampus, flapdoodle, fiddle-faddle and fiddlesticks [I use these two], hoosegow, weisenheimer, and bumfuzzle, [to confuse].

Do you use or remember any fun, vintage or regional words?

Service of New Scams

August 3rd, 2026

Categories: Automobiles, Scams

These scams were new to me.

Impersonation Con

Seems that there’s an impersonation scam targeting authors for the most part in which the scofflaws, pretending to be producers, editors or hosts of WNYC shows, are offering to get the recipient an interview on The Brian Lehrer Show–and others–for a fee or contribution.

WNYC makes it clear that it doesn’t charge a cent to the people it gives airtime, nor does it pass along any other fees such as production or promotion costs.

The emails are convincing. They look like they come from a WNYC account, but they are from a Gmail account. With the help of AI they may mention the title of the recipient’s work and are not filled with telltale spelling and punctuation errors so typical of earlier scam copy.

Vanity License Plate Trick

Someone cloned an acquaintance’s Maryland vanity license plate. He received violations mostly in D.C. and Prince George’s County. None were his. The plate clone had been placed on another car that willy nilly had its way with rules and laws at no cost to the scammer.

In addition to having to fight each of some 20 summonses and violations, he ended up selling his car and changing his license plate to put an end to the nightmare. He said the same thing happened to a friend in New York. This ripoff has been going on for quite some time. I only learned of it a few months ago.

Have you heard of any new, creative scams?

Service of When You Wait Too Long to React: Excuses or No?

July 30th, 2026

Categories: Excuses, Procrastination

I was surprised that procrastination showed up only once on the blog—October 2016–since 2008, in the categories covered on this blog. I used to do everything yesterday which is probably why I’m a little more relaxed now so it can take longer than it should to send a thank you or condolence note/contribution or respond to an email, [unless it’s from a client or media], or even a text.

I’m not sure whether I should just send the check, email or response and not mention the lag time or come up with an excuse.

Some of those excuses might be:

  • I’ve been juggling a few deadlines but have thought of ___’s death daily since last month.
  • I love looking at ______ [the gift] and can’t imagine why I didn’t share my enthusiasm with you before now.
  • What great news about _________. I thought I responded because I was so excited when I read the note yet couldn’t find a trace of my reply.

Are you always on top of correspondence? Do you pull out excuses–or not?

Service of Don’t Judge a Book by its Cover

July 27th, 2026

Categories: Book's Cover, Books, Pain, Surprises

I thought of this when a dear friend gave me a copy of Ann Patchett’s new book Whistler. Its cover promises a wild west yarn or a tale about horses. [I wondered, why did she select the book for me?] I’ve just started reading it, but it clearly takes place in New York City. I haven’t yet figured out the horse bit.

Some people wear their lives on their sleeves, broadcasting intimate details on social media, thrilled by the reactions and thumbs up.

It’s the others I’m thinking about.

A lifelong friend who has suffered neuropathy in hands and feet for 10 years mentioned it casually recently when she complained about the look of the sneakers she was wearing. She’d never before mentioned it.

You’d never know that some folks have financial difficulties or others are caring for a loved one with Alzheimer’s or are living with a person losing the fight with alcoholism or are in pain—physical or psychological.

I am curious about the people I see in a restaurant, guessing what they do for a living. I wonder why a couple remains silent throughout their meal or how parents are able to ignore an unruly child who is disturbing the other patrons.

I’ve written here about how first impressions have fooled me–some disappointing and others happily astonishing me.

Has a book’s cover–paper, digital or human–surprised you?

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