Service of How to Ask for Money or Support When You Shouldn’t

December 5th, 2019

Categories: Etiquette, Favors, Friendship, Fundraising

This is the time of year in which we’re bombarded by requests for money which inspired the topic of this post.

Say you’ve neglected a once close friend for whatever reason–do you ask them to support your cause or for the names of business contacts for a project at work?.

Your silence is worse if they’ve been sick, lost a job or a loved one. It happens.

Do you nevertheless call or write as though you just saw the person last week? Do you make small talk and then ask for what you want or forget it and think of others to contact this time?

If you’re sending an e-blast to all your contacts asking them to attend a fundraiser, do you include the recently forgotten person or delete their name from the list so as not to potentially irritate them?

Have you been on either side of this situation? If you were the one neglected would you play ball–attend the fundraiser, contribute to it or provide the business information you’re asked for?

2 Responses to “Service of How to Ask for Money or Support When You Shouldn’t”

  1. Debbie Kunen Said:

    Debbie wrote on Facebook: Both sides of the equation. Steer clear to avoid issues.

  2. Jeanne Byington Said:


    I’m with you. If I’ve been the one to neglect I won’t ask for anything and if I’m the one passed over I won’t play ball unless there is a very good reason for the person’s prolonged silence.

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