Service of “I Couldn’t Live Without It” Until I Did Post Pandemic

June 25th, 2020

Categories: Accessories, Comfort, Cooking, Credit Card, Food, Office, Pandemic

There were plenty of things I thought were essential to my happiness and survival that have changed since the pandemic.


I am not a vegetarian. I usually eat a traditional dinner consisting of a little meat or fish, potato or rice and a vegetable. But I hesitate to pay $6.50-$15/lb for garden variety hamburger. So I will be eating a lot of other things until prices readjust if ever they do.

Unfortunately my diet isn’t healthy if you consider the fettuccine Alfredo and ice cream that lace my dinner menus instead. I sometimes divide a pound of Alaskan salmon into four meals while ignoring the price because I know it’s healthy.

Work Colleagues

Since March I’ve not seen the people who share office space with me. I love going to an office. I enjoy the camaraderie and I’ll miss the banter. Like many who aren’t comfortable sharing closed space these days with others for long periods I’ve just moved my office home.

Large Handbag, Lucky Star

Because I no longer go to an office, a friend’s house, out for a meal or to meetings I don’t need to leave home with the paraphernalia I’ve deemed essential my adult life that required a pounds-heavy handbag to hold makeup, fat wallet, pens and so forth and often a tote bag as well.

I don’t miss a handbag though I’ve run into trouble without it.

  • Early on in the pandemic I pulled out my phone from my jeans pocket with clumsy plastic gloves on and my credit card came out too. The black card fell on the dark brown carpet by the elevator in my apartment. I didn’t notice until I went to pay for groceries. A neighbor returned it. Two weeks ago I was on an empty street and found a $20 bill in the gutter. I am sure that bill came out of the owner’s pocket just as my credit card did.
  • To avoid a reprise I graduated to a small purse [photo above, center] just big enough to hold essentials: credit card, keys and a little cash. You may have read my Facebook posting this week about the wonderful New York Department of Transportation construction workers who returned it to me. I thought I’d slipped it into one of the giant TJ Maxx bags loaded with groceries and planted on my shoulders but instead, it landed on the street. I attribute this mistake to a mask that acts like a horse’s blinders, a sweaty hand in gloves that remove feeling from my fingers and my attention focused on social distancing and what’s going on around me.

 Have you realized that you can live without anything you once thought was imperative?


10 Responses to “Service of “I Couldn’t Live Without It” Until I Did Post Pandemic”

  1. Hank Goldman Said:

    Love it! I will wager that most people think half their life, is not being lived. Might be a long time before there is anything like “normal“! I know I feel that way.

  2. Jeanne Byington Said:


    Everyone is handling this pandemic in a different way and consequently it impacts their lives more or less.

    I envy those who want to be the first to eat inside a restaurant when I won’t consider eating at an outside table–at least at the restaurants I’ve seen attempt this. Too close for comfort to me in either case.

    If I need public transportation I will opt for a bus that I can jump off of if too crowded or if there are too many on it without masks. Subways are out for me yet a friend has been riding them for weeks. People in search of love are again comfortable meeting in person strangers they have vetted online.

    Having a car, as I’ve written before, gives folks a sense of safety as it should as you control who touches anything inside or shares the space with you. So a few friends are traveling to vacation spots in the next few days.

    I listen to too many epidemiologists who all say similar things: shelter at home if possible, mask up, social distance, “I wouldn’t eat inside a restaurant,” or “I wouldn’t get inside a plane” and “I’d avoid the subway.”

    I don’t think there is right or wrong.

  3. Lucrezia Said:

    At the risk of appearing as a smug, self-satisfied old grouch: I don’t believe there’s anything one can’t live without. The loss of certain cherished activities (online bridge tournaments) can bring on great stress, but if the power goes out, one must scare up substitutes. No need to die…..yet!

  4. Helen Rabinovitz Said:

    I miss human contact. I have seen a few of my friends. Safe distance and masks and a pizza at my dining room table. I’m at one end and the friend at the other. I miss the hello hug and the goodbye hug. I especially miss the hugs I get from a friend who is like a big brother to me. My husband spends winters in Florida and this friend checks on me and I always get a big brother hug. Yes that’s what I miss….HUGS!!!

  5. Jeanne Byington Said:


    We surprise ourselves that’s for sure. I think of all the times I’ve seen stunning small handbags at TJ Maxx and after admiring them quickly move on. Who in a million years would have thought we’d come to life as it is in June 2020 where such a handbag would work. The lipstick business must be hurting with all those lips behind masks. No need to carry one unless you’re eating out but in the few minutes you’re eating will most women put on lipstick that would muck up the mask once dinner is over?

  6. Jeanne Byington Said:


    Hugs. I can’t even think about them. I too miss hugs.

  7. Nancie Steinberg Said:

    Nancie on Facebook: I miss friendly smiles.. especially from strangers.

  8. Jeanne Byington Said:

    Nancie—for sure! And if folks are wearing sunglasses you can’t even see crinkly smiling eyes!

    On the other hand I think “nobody sees wrinkles….”

  9. MarthaTakayama Said:

    I realize like you Jeanne, that I don’t need my huge handbag or extra tote bag. I was almost afraid to leave the house without them. I realize that the handsome handbags that I thought were so attractive and added a certain glamour are now relegated to my closet. The dresses or outfits I thought were needed for different occasions of pre-Covids life now seem as unnecessary as my handbags.

    All kinds of household items and decorative objects now just seem superfluous.

    However I miss the warmth of actual human interchange, seeing relatives, friends and acquaintances. I miss being able to go places, do things, in real time not virtually and the range of choices or options of activities that pre-covids life held including travel. I also miss severely the complete and utter lack of sanity, civility, consideration and leadership in our fragmented, American reality, teetering on the verge of collapse.

    I long for optimism, but find it hard to summon it up.

  10. Jeanne Byington Said:


    I left off what you, Helen, and Nancie mentioned–personal contact, hugs, smiles of strangers–I think because I didn’t want to think about it. I agree with you all.

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