Service of “But Everyone Does It”

July 5th, 2021

Categories: Age, Cheating, Everyone Does It, Job Hunt, Lies, Resume, Taxes, Weight

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People cheat on their taxes and some claim everyone does, but best not try. Ask Allen Weisselberg.

Taxes aren’t the only thing people fiddle with.  One friend lied to the anesthesiologist about her weight. She thought that was why she woke up in the middle of the operation. A doctor subsequently told me that wouldn’t happen for that reason. But still, not a good idea to underestimate.

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What about people with healthy resumes and years of accomplishments under their professional belts who nonetheless cheat on theirs? Some report a degree they don’t have [which is nuts as it’s so easy to confirm]. Others stretch a three month stint into a year. Many companies make the background check the last thing in what can be a month’s long process, sometimes more. What a shame to be beached after all that. From the employer’s point of view, the thought would be that such a candidate could as easily cheat the company or its clients. “You’re only speaking about a seven month difference,” a few might argue. I say keep it to three if that’s the truth.

One friend learned that his mother was older than she’d admitted when he accompanied her to the doctor towards the end or her life. She hadn’t wanted to be older than his father which was the reason for the discrepancy.

Some people exaggerate their wealth [which I’ve never understood].

What other things do people do–that they shouldn’t–with the excuse that everyone also does it? Any repercussions?

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9 Responses to “Service of “But Everyone Does It””

  1. ASK Said:

    File frivolous law suits, overestimate losses or claim whiplash on their insurance policies are two that immediately come to mind.

  2. Martha Takayama Said:

    I think it’s very unwise even dangerous to not b honest with doctors! Cheating on taxes doesn’t seem like a good ide no matter who does it. Faking degrees as you mentioned is so easy to expose. However, it seems that much of social media is just based on exaggeration,and misrepresentation and
    It is certainly not clear what the consequences are. Also after our last presidency we are still as a nation uncertain as to what isn’t correct or honest or legal to do or what can be ignored without consequences. We are in a moral or behavioral tug of war.

  3. Jeanne Byington Said:


    Good ones! When my foot got stuck in a hole in the middle of Third Ave and I broke it some suggested I sue the city. My insurance covered Dr. and PT so why sue? The hole has been long fixed.

  4. Jeanne Byington Said:


    Interesting point about the lives people design for others to see on social media. Who would admit to exaggeration–therefore we’ll never know the percentage. The last presidency sure pushed the envelope about what is true. Public safety is at stake because the pandemic became a political football leaving many who continue to refuse to be vaccinated putting those who cannot be for medical reasons at risk and perhaps us all.

  5. lucrezia Said:

    While cheating on taxes is neither commendable nor wise, think of the little guy struggling to meet financial obligations, as compared to the congressman getting fancy perks, huge salary and generous retirement compensation, who gets caught sneaking off to the Argentinian girlfriend on taxpayer money. Think of the costly hoopla of previous administrations. Similar boondoggles filter down to state and local governments, all at taxpayer cost. Even when culprits get caught, how much is restored to the taxpayer?

    “Everyone’s” activities are unproven, but governmental theft stands out and hurts more than a sore thumb, and the resentment is real. So now who’s to blame if “everyone” cheats?

  6. Jeanne Byington Said:


    As you point out the worst is when cheating hurts others. But where do you put those who have the same impact on taxpayers causing them to pick up the shortfall because they don’t pull their weight? Jeff Bezos is an example of one who pays none but makes $billions? He’s within the law. Off topic, but a plug for changing those laws that permit this to happen.

    Those of us who don’t cheat must seem like chumps to those who do.

  7. Hank Goldman Said:

    As far as the question, it sounds like a babyish excuse.

  8. Amanda Ripanykhazova Said:

    The only time it is justified is with the dreaded drop-down box, which is usually a means to dump your application into the trash.

    But what if you use it to prevent your application from being dumped! For a first time job seeker who says clearly on his resume that he is 20 but answers the drop-down that he is 30? Suddenly, far from being dumped, he becomes slightly OVERqualified, guaranteeing himself an interview! Happy to be underpaid for a 30 year old, he becomes a desirable commodity when set against all his competition!

    If he is scintillating enough, no one will wonder how he got that far, and no firm keeps records of those dumped. Especially by a drop-down box. So the drop-down box becomes a useful tool!

    I know one such person who could fall into this category. Sadly he learned long ago not to listen to me.

  9. Jeanne Byington Said:


    Interesting. It’s so hard to know how to manipulate these data-gobbling systems that render people anonymous so that you get a foot in the door.

    Years ago someone who worked for a client of my employer–[not one I represented]–boasted that she’d hired for a marketing position a 50 year old for a very low salary–a spot for someone with two year’s experience. I understand someone taking such a job to put food on the table. But it turned out that this “bargain” was simply terrible. Story made me sad for all concerned.

    Fiddling with a resume can bite back as well. There was a well-publicized incident of a woman who was the backbone of a department at a university [apologies–I don’t recall which], who had risen to director when after 20 years it was discovered that she’d lied about having a degree. Without the degree her work was exemplary and she was beloved by students and professors alike but that didn’t matter. She was fired on the spot.

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