Service of the Simple Things Friends Do That Warm Your Heart

March 14th, 2024

Categories: Caring, Friends, Simple Things

Cousin Deb Wright painted this Valentine card for me.

I was about to leave my apartment to face a daunting medical procedure when one of my dear friends texted, “Deep breaths.” I responded that my husband used to say that to me, and she replied that she knew, and that I’ve said it to her at times.

“Big deal,” you’re thinking.

It was big to me. I left home feeling supported and at the same time deeply touched.

Another instance involved the first text I received one morning this week. It was from a friend who had never known my husband. I met her after he’d died. She said she was thinking of me on the anniversary of his death. It blew me away. A longtime friend who did know him and who remembered such dates had died in December.

I’d written recently about two friends who’d recognized my husband’s February birthday with a mass card. Golly. Who does that?

There are simple ways you can comfort, strengthen and let a person know that you care without a lot of fanfare. I suspect friends do these things and forget about them–but I don’t. Such gestures are important, don’t you think?

One of several gifts my sister, Elizabeth, gave me for Valentine’s Day

12 Responses to “Service of the Simple Things Friends Do That Warm Your Heart”

  1. Martha Tepper Takayama Takayama Said:

    I absolutely agree with you that the importance and support offered by the kind of thoughtful, gentle caring gestures and actions that you refer to cannot be overestimated. I also know that you are the perfect example of someone who always acts in such a fashion! You are one of the kindest, most thoughtful, caring and supportive people I know, and I am grateful for your friendship!

  2. Jeanne Byington Said:

    Wow, Martha, thanks! I wish.

    Likewise, for you. You fished me out of our past when you saw my name in your stepdaughters’ alumnae magazine! I don’t read news from other classes! You are amazing.

  3. Nancie Steinberg Said:

    Nancie on Facebook: Beautiful card.

  4. Francine Ryan Said:

    Francine on Facebook: You are always saying and doing thoughtful things! And yes, it’s what’s really important to everyone with a soul and heart.

  5. Jeanne Byington Said:


    She is so talented. She likes to work with watercolor. I can’t draw a stick figure but controlling watercolor–forget it. She is a retired Chicago public school teacher and a cousin!

  6. Jeanne Byington Said:


    You too!

  7. Martha Takyama Said:

    OMG! I am in continually in awe of your thoughtfulness, kindness , and strength of character as well as all your other wonderful qualities and capacities.

  8. Deb Wright Said:

    I think simple acts of kindness make an indelible difference in the world. I have a good memory, and I can remember a friend who nursed my baby because my husband and I had to go to a wedding and I could not bring baby. She wouldn’t take a bottle, so Sandy, who was nursing her own baby, offered to do it. I mentioned this to Sandy recently, but she doesn’t remember it! I have been trying to do one conscious act of kindness a day. I don’t always succeed, but I am so grateful to be the recipient of kindness and thoughtfulness myself.

  9. Jeanne Byington Said:


    Have you become my press agent? YIKES. But thanks. XO

  10. Jeanne Byington Said:


    First, thank you for the Valentine that illustrates this post and will remain on my living room mule chest long after Valentine’s Day along with the rock you painted for me a few years ago.

    Your friend Sandy gave you a HUGE, memorable gift.

    Are we not lucky to have such friends?

  11. Lucrezia Said:

    Among the last comments made shortly before he died, a close friend and bridge partner, called me “a good person in wolves’ clothing.” I can’t vouch for the accuracy of so flattering, and quite possibly so undeserved a statement, but I try to live up to it.

  12. Jeanne Byington Said:


    Beautiful words to cherish and remember, more precious than a physical gift.

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